Tirza Schaefer: Romance Author & Goddess Facilitator

It is Wednesday evening and I am writing an article on Saraswati, Hindu Goddess of knowledge, learning, wisdom and music, when suddenly the phone rings. Not many people call me at 10 p.m. and I wonder who it is. It is a friend who works as a key account manager in the pharmaceutical industry. She is close to tears she says, but already laughs again, while she tells me she doesn't know what to do. When I ask her what’s wrong, she tells me to get my cards out. I tell her to br

I lived in London at the time and strolled over a fare market in Covent Garden (that was back in the early 90s when I was about 19 years old) with craft items, etc. There was a lady sitting at a small table. She was beautiful. Black, had long braids, in her mid-30s, noble features and a beauty that shone from within, really kind and warm. That was back in the early 90s and I didn’t know a thing about Tarot cards. I thought, she was selling a card game, and I saw a couple of

I’ve have a rapid transformational hypnosis session with a professional colleague some days ago. It wasn’t my first one and will certainly not be my last. I have shifted a lot from those sessions that I had not managed before. What happens is that Leila guides you into a hypnotic state where you are completely relaxed, yet still in control of yourself. It’s nothing like what you see on entertainment TV, where people run around as chickens and have no recollection of it afterw

Doing admin takes time and work and energy and no one can see it, but the end result. Most people won't ever know how much work you've put into all those "behind the scenes" stuff. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of hoping for acknowledgement from others. Unless they are intimately connected with not only you as a person, but also the work you are doing, they won't know and will most likely never pay attention to those things. But adversely, when you present sloppy wor

...When Your Child Doesn't Know How to Yet My youngest one has started secondary school this year and we had our first teacher’s days. Last Wednesday were the class teachers, when I saw both my two younger children's class teachers and yesterday was the day for subject teachers. We went to see a lady teacher who teaches natural sciences and arts in my little one's class. I didn’t know her as she had never taught any of my other two children before. Mrs. Water was a very nic

I’m sure most of you will agree that parenting is about wanting the best for your children. And at times, this means to annoy or upset them in the short-term to avoid greater undesirable events unfolding in the long-term. When we fail to give boundaries at all, they have nothing to orientate themselves on, when we fail to give freedom, they will break free forcefully one day and it might even involve some very burnt bridges. To walk that line between friend and authority, co

On November 3rd was my birthday and after my parents and children had left the scene, going home and to bed respectively, I was alone with m

Seems like a straight forward question. But many people get the definition wrong which results in them either rejecting all things divine or

Latin is a dead language Nobody speaks it anymore these days, right? Well, maybe the Pope and some of his priests in tow.

When we think about how to use words, in which context, which ones, at which time and how, we often forget that the best communication is to

There are many different forms of poetry. Some poems adhere to strict rules of rhyme and rhythm, others flow freely and don’t even rhyme.

By now, you have already got an inkling of there being so many things you can do with words and various combinations thereof.

The topic of constructive criticism within the subject of words is one that will probably bring up mixed feelings in a lot of people. Simply because we hone in more on the “criticism” part than the “constructive” bit. And let’s be honest, the word constructive, as well as the word criticism is widely interpreted, often to the point where they have nothing to do with their original meaning anymore. Either because the words used are so destructive, or because the person voicing

We’ve all gone to school, had to learn, study and study some more. Some of you may also have gone to college or university like me, but the truth is, you never stop learning your entire life. There will always be some new information gained, a new skill acquired. Some of this, we come by pretty intensely, others we’ve got time to get to grips with.

Part 2 is about how to shift this in a positive manner and create a better way of doing our best for our children that is not based on fear.

In a Facebook group, I am a member of, run by my friend Leila Hardy, there was a discussion about what is blocking you from success.

Here I am, after a long, beautiful day during which I spend four hours lunching with my cousin and talking about God and the world, spending time with my children, cuddling and talking, making them feel special, my 18-year-old son Tajun is meeting a friend outside and the girls are now in bed. I was watching “The Originals," a TV vampire series during which an older vampire, Klaus, speaks to a younger one, Marcel, which he had created about 250 years earlier. Klaus is very o

Yesterday I had a conversation with a couple of friends. We talked about many subjects, we laughed, we discussed serious topics, our children came when they wanted something, then went off to play again, or in case of the dogs, lay down to rest. It was one of those beautiful days that you have when you feel you connect deep down and can share of yourself without being condemned for being different, for not being a perfect fit of whatever or whoever someone else thinks you hav

This morning, I came into the livingroom and my youngest child Tyler (nearly ten now) sat at the table, munching on his muesli with one hand and stroking the cat who was lying beside him with the other. Of course, by the time I had taken out my phone and got the camera app open, Taani had already jumped off the table and the cuter-than-the-world's-best-cupcake picture was never taken. Sigh! Instead, I sat down beside my Mini Mouse, as I like to call him, and stroked his hair